This site contains affiliate links to products. We may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
Do you have a dream, but keep postponing it because you feel trapped by the responsibilities of life? Your dreams and wishes are important and mean a lot to fulfill your soul’s purpose. Want to be a writer, work from home, own your own business? First, we will examine how your dream got deferred. Then, we will outline definitive steps to get you back on track. Or any type of business, project or creative endeavor that you would like to pursue. It’s never too late to start as long as you’re still alive. Life can give us trials and loss and challenge us to our wits end. But that is nothing more than the human experience. And sometimes we are given second chances on life after loss and tragedy but it gives all the more meaning to each day. The simplest thing of just being able to go outside, sit in the sun or walk in the sun and be in nature is my most rewarding experience. And no, you can’t put a price on that even if you wanted to.
“And for some of us, we may have experience loss and challenges from an early age or at a later time in life, as long as you are still with breath you still have a chance to take life by the reign and live boldly and courage and stare in the face of fear.” – Heather – Founder of ZAFTYG LLC
Because on the other side of that are your dreams. And they do come true. Every time you chose to expand yourself beyond your current mental state of boundaries, you expand your consciousness and that is a contagious energy in itself. I can’t stress enough the importance of self preservation and self care, as the ‘Highest form of human intelligence is to observe oneself without judgement’.
“How did I get to this point in my life?” Many of us look back and realize if we had it to do again, we would do some things differently. As the owner of a staffing agency for the last seven years, I have developed a theory.
In my opinion, many people “fall” into a job. Most accept the first decent paying position out of school. If it’s not something they’re particularly crazy about, they surmise they’ll take this until they figure out what it is they really want to do.
Usually, the demanding responsibilities of rent, student loans, credit cards, etc. take over, making it hard to focus on what they really want to do. After 3, 5, 7 years in a field, it becomes more difficult to move into a different area because it often means a salary cut. At this point, however, a salary cut is often out of the question because of the above-mentioned responsibilities. It evolves into a vicious cycle.
So, how do you break the cycle? The guidelines outlined below will put you well on your way to achieving your dreams. Some of this advice will fly in the face of what you have been told all your life. It’s up to you to decide if your dream is important enough to accept it.
1. Make your dream one of your top three priorities.
The mistake many make is putting their dreams on the back burner, eg, “I’ll focus on [you fill in the blank], when the kids graduate from high school, when I pay off that student loan, once I get that promotion, etc.”
There will always be something that can get in the way, if you let it. If you really want to be a writer, work from home, own your own business, travel more, whatever it is, you have to make it a priority. Otherwise it will always remain just that, a dream.
2. Manage debt. Massive debt limits the ability to make life changes.
Most people are forced into having to make a certain salary because they’ve become accustomed to a certain lifestyle. Let’s face it, most of us work to live. Our lives dictate to us, not the other way around.
Look at all the pressing demands in your life. Outside of keeping a roof over your head, putting food on the table, saving for retirement and health insurance, how many obligations can you cut back on?
I personally do not believe that parents owe children an education. It’s nice if you can help out, but you don’t have to outright pay for it. Cut back on the college fund, outright buy a car instead of making payments, eat out less, and really, how many white shirts does one need – cut the shopping.
I live in New York City, one of the most expensive cities in the world. Yet, in the last seven years, I’ve managed to build two businesses, work from home and basically plan my days to suit my needs, instead of having them planned for me.
New Yorkers have a running joke that you spend $20 just walking out the front door – and it’s practically true.
There are street vendors who sell the most beautiful baubles: jewelry, African art, sunglasses, shirts, books, CDs (the illegal ones of excellent quality for $5!); restaurants and coffee bars litter almost every corner; oh-so-convenient bodegas; and we won’t talk about the large Salvation Army in my neighborhood that should be renamed in my honor.
In spite of all this temptation right out my door, I rarely spend $5 during the week – really! How do I manage? Two things help: 1) I grocery shop once a week and once a week only; and 2) I use my ATM card once a week to take out cash for the weekend on Fridays (margaritas with my friends is almost a ritual!). No exceptions.
I guarantee you, if you start making your dream one of your main priorities, you’d be amazed at how what you can do to achieve it.
3. Invest and save: Start a dream fund. Securing your dream is not about how much you make, but how much you save. Or how you invest your money also.
If you want to work from home and your dream job or career, start planning and saving for it now. Most wait until they are so fed up with a current situation that they find themselves doing something drastic out of sheer frustration.
You will have a much better chance at success and your dreams, if you slowly and methodically start to plan months or years in advance. This will give you a chance to start freelancing and pick up clients while you are working full-time; pay down debts, save more aggressively, buy needed equipment, etc.
Starting early has another benefit as well. You will become calmer inside because you are doing something toward your dream. This will make your current situation more tolerable. In almost any given situation, taking positive action almost always makes you feel better.
So, although you may not be able to live your dream right away, taking these steps will allow you to start realizing it today!
Heather – Founder of ZAFTYG LLC
Welcome to Zaftyg!
About Zaftyg, it is a community space for the forward thinking woman! We are a progressive lifestyle brand and online magazine focused on delivering high quality products and starting meaningful conversations. No matter how you identify, we are here to help you look your best, and live your best life!
About Zaftyg, it is an evolution of the Yiddish word Zaftig – a full figured woman or plump in shape. Our brand supports all women and those that identify as women, and all those who accept themselves for who they truly are. This includes any being that identifies as a woman too. We take PRIDE in standing with the with anything that aligns for the higher good of our communities.
Your purchase is directly supporting our Zaftyg team of entrepreneurs, contractors and freelancers from around the globe. We are doing our part in offering support for a better life – work balance for our team, so that our we may live well balance life. Learn more about our Zaftyg team here! Interested in partnering up with our subsidiary brand Onus Social? Take a look at what we do over at Onus Social Digital Marketing Agency, an Internationally Award Winning Digital Marketing Agency.